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BIG WHITE HAT

Posted by realmenovercome on March 30, 2006

I dedicate this days post to Big White Hat. It is because of him that I have a working BLOG. He has been helping me correct my mistakes in my template and encouraging me to go ahead and “git er dun.” I also have to thank Miss Darlene at “What Would Jesus BLOG?” she gave me the original idea to go for this and start this thing. Many people know quite a lot about her and her BLOG and that is GREAT!!!!! I hope that the Lord of Creation uses her BLOG to draw many to Christ.

While Miss Darlene’s BLOG is more of a Mom type BLOG, BWH is more of a Manly BLOG. I am going to give you all Craig’s opinion of BWH’s BLOG and of BWH himself. Please remember that I have been a Dad for twenty years and I know something about the pain, pleasure, and some times out right hilarity of fatherhood.

BWH is a real man. He is a loving husband and father and knows what the pain part of fatherhood can be, he lives it every day. I am not saying that he is in physical or even emotional pain every day. He lives the life of the father of a child who is indeed very special. Not a special needs child although I am sure his son has some of those as well, BUT his son’s special need is met by a father as loving as THE FATHER. When BWH speaks of his autistic son it is not with “pity” or shame or as a father who has to drag him to the doctor every day for “treatment” even if some days he may have to do that. He speaks of his son with the pride of a true and loving father who would give his very last breath for his children. He has other children and he loves them no more or less than his son who needs more attention.

BWH lives every day to be the best husband and father that he can be. How do I know this? Read his BLOG some time about how the party is over. Read his wife’s BLOG about how she feels about him. Read my BLOG in the comments about his assistance and encouragement to me as a true friend would do. He and I have never met but I consider him a friend and brother in Christ. I have emails from him filled with advice about how to do this and how not to give up. The examples in his life while growing up were some of the best that I have ever heard of and when he lives his life he draws upon those experiences and lives in a way that brings honor to their memory.

I have to stop here or I will not stop. Jesus said to lift one another up in prayer and encourage one another. BWH lives out those commandments every day. Loving Lord, I lift up my brother right now in Jesus name. I ask for him strength, faith, love, peace, joy, patience, and compassion. I ask for his wife and children respect for him, appreciation of him, and joy at his presence in their lives. I ask oh Lord as the mighty physician and creator of all life, healing for him and them when they are sick and for continued health now and in the future. Amen.

I ask everyone who reads this to take a look at BWH’s BLOG and read the “Best Of” it will give you an insight into the life of a “Real Man.”

In His Service,

Craig

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Men and Real Love 2

Posted by realmenovercome on March 28, 2006

Last post was about us as Christian Men showing love towards one another. Today I had the chance to really do it!!!!!!!! Today I am humbled by what our Savior gave us in the form of humility. What is it about humility that makes us feel so very good for so long? When no one can see the good that we do and we have no “instant gratification” of a reward why do we feel as though we have just conquered the world?

A gentleman who works here with me is going home tomorrow. For the sake of identification we will call him “Pete.” Pete has a bad back and could hardly move today. He has been laid up in bed for three days. Today when I was finished with a little personal business I went to the supervisor’s office and talked to him. He sent me on the errand of getting Pete’s stuff ready to go back home where he can receive the help that he needs to get his back straightened out. First I was able to get him some food, then went to HR, then back to the office, and finally later that day I had the opportunity to assist him in getting three days of sand and sweat off of him in the shower.

No I did not bath him like a child. I got a wash rag and loaned it to him. When he could not bend far enough to dry his feet I did that for him. Oh by the way there were two other men helping him in this time of struggle as well. We held his hand or towel or toilet kit as needed. One man gave him a little trim to make him even more presentable. When I dried off his foot he made a comment about being a pain. I said the king of the universe once washed His disciples feet and then told the following story.

Easter 1998: Hampton Roads area of Virginia. The church I was attending at the time and others around the area got together and started fasting and praying for 10,000 people to come to Christ on that day. I am not sure if there were 10,000 people in the Hampton coliseum on that day including us Christians but I witnessed something that I had not seen before and not seen since. The Denbigh Church of God (DCG) is a mostly white church but many people from many walks of life go there every Sunday. The largest Baptist Church in Newport News is called the First Baptist Church (FBC) I think that is the name. It is a mostly Black church but again no one is turned away for being the wrong color.

The two pastors of the two churches got together and decided to have a combined service in the coliseum that Sunday including a combined choir and sermon. Pastor Collins stated after the praise and worship was over that God had told him to do something so amazing that it shocked him! Now Pastor Collins is one of those old saints that has seen it all and is not afraid of this world and its sins and he is rarely shocked even by God, BUT this was truly shocking. Pastor Collins after telling us that he had been shocked by God had the Black minister (I am sorry I cannot remember his name so I will have to refer to him as the pastor of the Baptist church or the black minister thus differentiating the two) sit down in a chair. Pastor Collins then knelt down in front of him and removed his shoes and socks. The saints in that building shook it to its foundation with a roar of praise the kind of which brought down the walls of Jericho. Pastor Collins washed the Baptist minister’s feet and then that black man knelt down before that white man and washed his feet and KISSED them!

You have to know something about Virginia and its history to know just how earth shattering this truly was. (Remember I was telling this to these men) Both of these men were old enough to remember segregation in the south and even in Virginia. Although it was mild compared to Alabama or Louisiana it was still there and both of these men were a part of opposing sides of the cultural war of the 1960’s and 1970’s. Now here they both are kneeling before one another in abject humility washing the others feet. Some may say that this was a direct result of the civil rights movement and they would be partly correct. Some may say that it was the way they were brought up and they would be dead wrong!

When Pastor Collins called up the Baptist Pastor the answer he received on the phone was, “What do you want?” Pastor Collins response was, “I just want to love open you a little.” That was the start of something that culminated in the foot washing I witnessed that day. What happened that day? Love happened that day. Real men loved one another that day in a way that could not be mistaken for anything else but LOVE. So my humbling of myself to serve a brother was a true witness to two men who do not know the salvation of my Lord Jesus.

BLOGGERS, I am not bragging about MY good works. I am telling you of a real blessing in my life today, the opportunity to serve and love someone else with the love of Jesus. Because of this opportunity I feel like I am on the top of the world. But I also feel very humble in the sight of my Lord for He has shown his great love for me and I was able to let it spill over into someone else’s life. I pray that the seeds that I planted today will fully mature and come to full bloom.

Well that was my day.

In His Service,

Craig

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Real Men and Love

Posted by realmenovercome on March 27, 2006

The title of today’s post comes from my devotional. I have a Zondervan Mens Devotional Bible that I read every day or there near about. I have to admit that I don’t always read my devotional but I try very hard to do so. My day always starts off better with Jesus and His Word than if not. Today the title was, coincidentally the same as my Blog. I am not like Miss Darlene of WWJBLOG I rarely have days when I have an experience that inspires me to write some thing profound on my BLOG. But today was one of them. By the way if anyone is reading this I encourage you and all of your friends to read www.wwjblog.blogspot.com. Miss Darlene is a really great Blogger and she knows who Jesus is.

Real men love. That is a very profound statement. Real men love Jesus is an even greater statement. If there are any real men reading this Blog you should know this all ready and I should not have to tell you this. So I am not telling YOU this. I am telling me and my Blog this: REAL MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES, CHILDREN, NEIGHBORS, AND MOST OF ALL JESUS!!!!!!! Now that was not so bad was it? Let’s discuss what it means to love.

The text comes from 1Corinthians 13:1-7. (Read this first) Oh by the way this is not a devotional it is Craig’s opinion. The world has tried to define love for quite some time. They have used romance, lust, pornography, movies, books, the internet, etc…..in an attempt to define love. Paul wrote in The Word of God only one chapter and he defined love for all eternity. Shall we define it? Patient, kind, not selfish, behaves itself, acts with decorum, rejoices in the truth, and never fails. Even if the person doing the loving dies they do not fail. Jesus said greater love hath no man than he give his life for his friends. How about a great cause? What about his country? Does the soldier on the battlefield love any less than the mother defending her children from the evils of this world? Even when the soldier is killing the enemy he is trying to love. When the battle is over what do soldiers do? They go and treat the wounded, friend or enemy makes no difference, they try to save the life of those whom they have just tried to kill.

What about when we are disagreeing with our spouse? Men can be so cold about what they are speaking that they forget that the person that they are talking to is soft, vulnerable, completely emotional, and is very easily wounded. We must stick to the subject when in a disagreement and be logical because we do not have the emotional skill or capacity to battle with them on their level and we will loose the battle. The real quandry we find ourselves in is when we are in a disagreement with our wives we are not trying to “win” we are trying to come to an agreement.

BUT we must always be GENTLE when speaking to our wives especially when disagreeing. We must be quick to forgive and forget this is the soul of love. What did Jesus say would be the indicator that others would know that we were His disciples? That we would have love one for another and that we would love one another. So being patient, kind, unselfish, grave, yet with a good sense of humor, and truthful we are showing ourselves to be Jesus’ disciples.

So Love must be a part of who we are and what people see. We must forgive quickly and show mercy to others. We have no choice if we are to be Christian men.

In His Service,

Craig

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Our American Heroes

Posted by realmenovercome on March 18, 2006

I have some heroes in my life. Of course Jesus is the Big Hero in my life but there are some human ones as well. Those who read this post will know that I was a soldier in the American Army for a long time but I was never a “real” soldier in the sense that I had to use force in the defense of my country. Those who do are the ones I consider my heroes.

Mr. Michael Marks is a poet who really knows how to get to me and the poem below came across my email from Sam Chappell. Sam is a job finder for those who were in the military and others. But ocassionally he sends these to me and I forward them to those with whom I convers regularly. I hope someone reads it.

In His Service,

Craig

Monsters and the weekday sun beat like a hammer, not a cloud was in the sky.
The mid-day air ran thick with dust, my throat was parched and dry.
With microphone clutched tight in hand and cameraman in tow,
I ducked beneath a fallen roof, surprised to hear “stay low.”

My eyes blinked several times before in shadow I could see,
the figure stretched across the rubble, steps away from me
He wore a cloak of burlap strips, all shades of grey and brown,
that hung in tatters till he seemed to melt into the ground.

He never turned his head or took his eye from off the scope,
but pointed through the broken wall and down the rocky slope.
“About eight hundred yards,” he said, his whispered words concise,
“beneath the baggy jacket he is wearing a device.”

A chill ran up my spine despite the swelter of the heat,
“You think he’s gonna set it off along the crowded street?
“The sniper gave a weary sigh and said “I wouldn’t doubt it,”
“unless there’s something this old gun and I can do about it.”

A thunderclap, a tongue of flame, the still abruptly shattered;
while citizens that walked the street were just as quickly scattered.
Till only one remained, a body crumpled on the ground,
The threat to oh so many ended by a single round.

And yet the sniper had no cheer, no hint of any gloat,
instead he pulled a logbook out and quietly he wrote.
“Hey, I could put you on TV, that shot was quite a story!
“But he surprised me once again — “I got no wish for glory.”

“Are you for real?” I asked in awe, “You don’t want fame or credit?
“He looked at me with saddened eyes and said “you just don’t get it.”
“You see that shot-up length of wall, the one without a door?
before a mortar hit, it used to be a grocery store.”

“But don’t go thinking that to bomb a store is all that cruel,
the rubble just across the street — it used to be a school.
The little kids played soccer in the field out by the road,”
His head hung low, “They never thought a car would just explode.”

“As bad as all this is though, it could be a whole lot worse,”
He swallowed hard, the words came from his mouth just like a curse.
“Today the fights on foreign land, on streets that aren’t my own,”
“I’m here today ’cause if I fail, the next fights back at home.”

“And I won’t let my Safeway burn, my neighbors dead inside,
don’t wanna get a call from school that says my daughter died;
I pray that not a one of them will know the things I see,
nor have the work of terrorists etched in their memory.”

“So you can keep your trophies and your fleeting bit of fame,
I don’t care if I make the news, or if they speak my name.”
He glanced toward the camera and his brow began to knot,
“If you’re looking for a story, why not give this one a shot.”

“Just tell the truth of what you see, without the slant or spin;
that most of us are OK and we’re coming home again.
And why not tell our folks back home about the good we’ve done,
how when they see Americans, the kids come at a run.

“You tell ‘em what it means to folks here just to speak their mind,
without the fear that tyranny is just a step behind;
Describe the desert miles they walk in their first chance to vote,
or ask a soldier if he’s proud, I’m sure you’ll get a quote.

“He turned and slid the rifle in a drag bag thickly padded,
then looked again with eyes of steel as quietly he added;
“And maybe just remind the few, if ill of us they speak,
that we are all that stands between the monsters and the weak.”

Michael Marks January 25, 2006

Here’s some info about the author: POET SPEAKS FOR TROOPS
By Robert Stacy McCainTHE WASHINGTON TIMES
December 20, 2005

The messages come from across the country and around the world from service members and their families, thanking Michael Marks for his poetry. Posted on Web sites and circulated through e-mails, Mr. Marks’ poems “A Soldier’s Christmas” and “The Sands of Christmas” add a patriotic touch to the holidays.

“I am a United Methodist pastor and a Vietnam veteran A-4 pilot,” one e-mail says. “I found your poem at vietvet.org and appreciate it very much. I am writing to ask your permission to read it to my congregation on Christmas Eve.”

Another e-mail says, “I am writing to tell you how much your poems have meant to our family, especially to my brother who is serving on a submarine. We had sent him a copy of ‘A Soldier’s Christmas’ because we thought he would like it… He wrote back to say that on Christmas Eve it was read on the intercom for everybody to hear.

He said that it really brought a bit of home when they were so far away on Christmas.”Mr. Marks, 41, a Leesburg, Va., resident, says he has been interested in poetry since sixth grade, when he won a school poetry contest. “I guess it stuck,” says the defense consultant and author of “The Emergency Responder’s Guide to Terrorism.

“Thanks to the Internet, his poems have made him something of a holiday hero. A Google search for his poems turns up 1,000 links to “A Soldier’s Christmas” written in 2000, and 800 links for “The Sands of Christmas” written in 2003.

He grew up in “a very patriotic household,” Mr. Marks says. His father was a Marine veteran and missile engineer. Mr. Marks recalls going out, at age 5, “in my best little suit with my grandma selling red paper poppies to fund raise for the American Legion Auxiliary.”He turned to poetry on Pearl Harbor Day — December 7 — in 2000 to express concern after some soldiers’ absentee ballots were questioned during that year’s presidential elections.

“Sitting here listening to all this, I started thinking about ways to say ‘thank you’ ” to the troops, Mr. Marks says. That inspired ‘A Soldier’s Christmas’ about a dream encounter with a soldier who says, “to know you remember we fought and we bled is payment enough.”"I put it out on the Web. I didn’t think it would draw the level of response it did,” Mr. Marks says. “I started getting e-mails from everywhere — Bosnia, Okinawa, everywhere you could imagine.

“That reaction encouraged him to write more poems, including ‘The Name on the Wall’ about the Vietnam Veterans Memorial.”The 390th Strategic Missile Wing contacted me and asked me to write a poem for the dedication of the Titan Missile Museum… That poem, ‘When Titans Walked’ was read at the dedication and hangs framed in the museum,” Mr. Marks says.

His work is posted at the International War Veterans’ Poetry Archives (http://www.iwvpa.net/), but also is all over the Web — with the poet’s generous permission.’The Sands of Christmas’ was inspired when Mr. Marks compared his problems — he is a fan of the NFL’s Miami Dolphins, who had “lost by six” — with the challenges faced by soldiers who have “no Christmas turkey, just a pack of MREs,” or meals ready to eat.

His works have earned him no money, Mr. Marks said, but that doesn’t matter. He gets paid in grateful e-mails, like this one:”I am the mother of two sons in the U.S. Army — one a combat engineer with the 10th Mountain Division in Afghanistan and the other a medic with the 172nd Infantry at Fort Wainwright, Fairbanks, Alaska. Neither will be home for Christmas this year. Thank you for expressing in such beautiful words the gratitude we should all have for our warriors of the U.S. military.

“When he first posted his poetry online, Mr. Marks said, “I didn’t even know if anyone would read the thing…. The return on it has been more than any dollar figure that I could ever put on it.

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